NeemsI am Woman
Dodging the self-image bullets from the media, society and ourselves is a mighty tough job. And one that is certainly a road hard travelled. It’s more important than ever for women now to recapture the beauty of our soul and reinforce our inner strength through avenues that aren’t derived from negative validation. It’s time we stand tall and reach beyond the stars because we are worth it.
Our Battles…
Women face a myriad of battles in life. At work, the glass ceiling is still standing firm in many places. And although through the hard work of remarkably strong and intelligent women, cracks are appearing and we’re beginning to hold open the gateways more permanently, we still have a long way to go.
In relationships, we are told to stop being so picky when we choose to wait for someone whose souls sing in tune with ours. When our age starts climbing, panic leads us to settling with less than satisfying relationships, sometimes devaluing ourselves as much, if not more than the union we tie ourselves to.
The world’s obsession with beauty has driven us to wreak havoc on our own self-esteem, mentally and physically abusing our bodies and instilling in us a painful desire to match the look society deems is true magnificence. In doing so, we have sadly lost touch with our inner worth, our relationship with ourselves, our soul- ironically the very thing that can truly guarantee contentment and deep happiness.
Our relationship with ourselves…
Somewhere in the midst of a fast-paced world, we left behind the most important relationship in our lives- the relationship with ourselves. How many of us look in the mirror and see only the stretchmarks, cellulite, “big” bum, fat arms, flabby stomach and curse our bodies, hate our bodies, wish we looked like Miranda Kerr or the girl in our office whose legs could attract an appreciative whistle from a man on mars?
In our self-obsessed frenzy, we have created an unhealthy dependency upon the very aspect of ourselves that is made to fade in time. Our bodies are usually a direct reflection of the respect and love we have treated it with. How many of us are guilty of starving it? Cramming it full of junk? Stabbing it with needles? Consuming copious amounts of alcohol and drugs? Calling it ugly names? And in return we forever wish it would miraculously morph into something we would be happy with. Except we will never be content with what we have as long as our mind and our soul are not in harmony with each other. That’s the relationship we need to nurture. We need to be kind to ourselves. That’s the relationship that will ultimately deliver the peace we so crave. Love yourself truly, and the whole world will love you in return.
Celebrate being sexual rather than being sexy
Every which way you turn women appear scantily clad splashed over billboards, advertisements, magazines, music videos and now even dolls for children. The message seems to be that wearing less makes you more desirable, sexier and what men want. Certainly it sells the products, sells an inviting, glamorous world and there are a few men who do prefer their women wearing the bare minimum. But it does beg the obvious question- is this world and the men who are part of it, the kind who would value your inner worth as much as they salivate and profit off the exterior?
Women are sexy. We are coming to an era where it is more and more acceptable for a woman to know her body, to love that she has sexual needs that she would like met, to know what she wants and to never compromise on her integrity while satisfying her desires. To explore this world at her own pace, with her own expectations and listening and respecting her body all the way there. Now that’s a beautiful woman.
Our Girlfriends…
The support of our girlfriends is incredibly precious. They are the ones who lend you their wings whenever you momentarily forget to fly. They are the ones who celebrate your triumphs, grieve at your losses and help keep your soul soaring. Together, our wealth of experience, mistakes learned and wisdom only serve to better the beautiful women we are all capable of becoming. Never forsake your girls- for without them, life is simply not anywhere near as rich.
Three Cheers for the Sisterhood…
Our life is our own- and that’s a pretty beautiful thing. As women, it’s never been more important to support one another. Whether she is someone you have known your whole life, someone you’ve just met or someone you will never meet, lend her your wings and stand by her side.
There are women out in our world whose cries are going unheard and whose fate lies in ignorant and often cruel hands. There are women who have turned into their own worst enemies. There are women who have simply lost their way and need help finding their way back. There are women who are already on a beautiful path and want to share their wisdom with you. Whatever the situation, whatever the level of support and help that’s needed, never turn your back on her. For she is worth the world and more.
We are spiritual. We are powerful. We are women. And this is our time to shine.
Neema Mohan,1st September, 2008 ©
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Many women who SI are sexual abuse victims... and they also suffer eating disorders... *Has done a fair bit of research*
I will say this, though... sometimes the guys can be more accepting than the girls. I don't like it, but I've recently had to excommunicate one of my closest friends because I know that the path I'm taking, while it's helping me heal, would only hurt her if she knew the truth-including about just how deep my wounds are.
~Dianna
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SK- thank you for taking the time to read this piece, and thank you for your beautiful words
Neems xx
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I sometimes disagree with being too hard and heavy on the sisterhood stuff, and Im often better friends with men than women, but I really, really, needed to hear this right now....I needed to be reminded what makes a beautiful woman. Thankyou.
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Thank you so much
Neems xx
Thank you for the Knowledge, Love, Empowerment and the Power of a Woman that it exudes!
How very quickly we forget our worth and the courage we have, when faced with messy and tough situations!
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! for being "that Voice" that reminds us to stand tall and strong!
I Love you honey!
Pam.
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Neems xoxx
Christina xox
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